Harlene dela Torre-McIlwain, MA

Are you often self-critical, with a negative or harsh voice in your head? Do you feel suffocated by shame, “not good enough-ness”, and unworthiness and the sense of aloneness that follows? Maybe you’ve had these thoughts for a long time, learned from past trauma or an unsupportive environment you grew up in. These painful experiences can hinder you from living a rewarding, joyful life. If this sounds familiar, I understand and am here to help. I specialize in trauma-informed therapy for anxiety, depression, Complex PTSD (C-PTSD), chronic self-criticism, identity, relationships, life transitions, and LGBTQIA+ affirming care. I welcome you in your wholeness—including your cultural, spiritual, neurodivergent, and LGBTQIA+ identities as well as those quieter aspects of you that may seem less prominent but still comprise who you are. Rooted in respect for your lived experience, I integrate somatic, IFS-informed, and AEDP to tailor therapy to your unique complexity. No matter where you are in your life, I will meet you with warmth, grounded strength, and compassion. Together, we'll create a space where you feel truly seen and understood. My aim is to support you in moving toward greater self-trust, building healthier connections, and developing a reliable sense of comfort and safety within yourself and your world.